What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. ..

As the saying & the song by Kelly Clarkson goes, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. That's definitely the thing running through my head this week with the changes I've implemented in my life...

I sat and removed people from my social media accounts this past week who I haven't had anything to do with in weeks/months. Ones who decided to be drama queens and think they know better and run my life for me, one's that cause drama and suck others into it and people who only message when they want something or try use you for information.  I realised if I was to keep moving forward after making a decision that I don't need that crap in my life then I needed to remove the negatives or negativity that these people create too.

 I have to say I feel much happier & like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Life is A LOT simpler without that extra baggage and to be honest I find myself enjoying the company of true friends more and am more grateful for them. It hasn't killed me letting go in fact I feel better for it...

I also removed myself from a situation that's been hurting me for awhile.  As much as I care and believe in someone I also believe that people cant help others unless they help themselves.  So this led me to writing a letter and letting someone know that I need to stand back and let them decide whether they help  themselves or not. That I care but I need to step back and enjoy my life as it stands no matter how much I love them. I will always care etc as I am that kind of person and don't give up on people I care about and am forever loyal, I just knew I had to step back as I was just getting hurt more than it was worth. 

I've told the person I will always be here when they are ready to come talk and move forward but that I have left communication or lack thereof up to them :) I believe it to be the best and only way...

I know people all have different ideas on these kinds of things and think  its wrong to step back from situations you are invested deeply in and that you shouldn't walk away from people you call friends etc but I have also learnt over the years that not all friends are true friends and that I don't always want to be involved in other peoples dramas whether as a sounding board or whatever. I care about all my friends but sometimes as the saying goes, some friends come for a season and don't say and I guess I am learning that as I have learnt things from these people and then they have disappeared in some ways. But we live and we learn.... 

So even though these decisions have hurt a little It hasn't killed me and I am sure I will come out Stronger for it.... and maybe some of my friendships will too.....